Ok fellow person, let’s talk about self-care. This is taking care of yourself to re-center, refocus, and do something just for you a.k.a your “me time.” Are you a give-give-give type of person who burns out before doing something for yourself? Do you have a good balance for self-care? Does your family encourage it?
You know how some people do hot yoga or take a bath for self-care? Some people play golf or read a book or take a nap. Other people might go on hikes or practice archery or swim. Well, other people free-climb huge mountains like the guy in that one documentary I just watched. It’s called “Free Solo” and those climbers are super talented and super terrifying. I think I’m pretty late to this party, have you seen the documentary? Just to clarify, they free-climb. This isn’t rock walls in a gym, these are the biggest mountains like, ever.
They climb…without…a safety harness.
It has the word SAFETY in it.
I would much rather write on my laptop where it’s safe, but that’s just me!
I recently read the book Leaving It at the Office, which is from the perspective of two clinical psychologists (yes you guessed it, old white guys). Although this is about practicing self-care as a therapist or mental health professional, I love how they talk about not just considering self-care, you should demand it. Even the word “demand” has such power to it, doesn’t it? The next time your friend or family member or spouse calls you lazy for taking “me time,” tell them it’s science. Self-care has been confirmed by science friends.
One way to find your self-care routine is to use your love language
The Five Love Languages
If you’ve never heard of Gary Chapman’s book on love languages, there’s no other way to say it, you might be living under a rock.
Do you feel more loved when someone spends time with you or when someone hugs you? Do you feel more fulfilled when someone leaves you a note or a gift? Would you rather someone tell you kind things or do something special for you? What is your love language? You can also take the quiz if you’re not sure.
I also think your love language can change. Words of affirmation has always been my number one love language (not too shocking). However, after I had my son, I started to feel a lot more love by acts of service, at least from my husband.
- Being alone
- Reading my Bible
- Writing (go figure)
- Going for a walk
- Playing guitar
- Snuggling my dog
- Taking my son to the park
- Venting to my husband
- Painting my toe nails
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What do you do for self care? Don’t forget to care for yourself, especially if you are free climbing in your spare time. That’s really hard.
“Life’s deepest meaning is not found in accomplishments but in relationships.” – Gary Chapman
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